UPDATE: A troubling incident within a 12-step program has sparked urgent concerns about trust and confidentiality among members. A participant, known as “Overshared,” raised alarm after their sponsor, Sally, publicly shared sensitive information about another sponsee during a recent meeting. This breach of trust has left Overshared questioning their own safety in sharing personal struggles.
The incident occurred during a meeting with 15 attendees, where Sally detailed another sponsee’s ongoing struggles with addiction. Overshared expressed deep disappointment, emphasizing that such discussions should remain confidential and be handled privately, ideally with Sally’s own sponsor. They feel this violation not only undermines their trust in Sally but also jeopardizes their own recovery journey.
In response, advice from renowned columnist R. Eric Thomas suggests Overshared should consider finding a new sponsor if they feel unsafe. “Every person’s recovery journey is unique,” Thomas stated, urging individuals to prioritize their well-being. He highlighted that addressing these feelings directly with Sally could be beneficial, framing it as a personal experience rather than an attempt to fix her behavior.
The emotional weight of this situation is significant, as it reflects broader issues of trust within recovery communities. Overshared’s experience resonates with many who rely on sponsors for guidance and support. The fear of becoming the subject of gossip can deter individuals from seeking help, ultimately impacting their recovery.
In a separate but equally pressing matter, another reader, “Disappointed,” expressed anxiety over their husband being targeted by law enforcement due to his skin color. This has led to feelings of isolation, as long-time friends have not reached out to provide support. The urgency of mental health during these challenging times cannot be overstated. Thomas advised that friends may feel overwhelmed and unsure how to help, and it’s crucial for Disappointed to communicate specific needs for support.
As these narratives unfold, they highlight the critical importance of trust, communication, and support systems in both recovery and personal relationships. Community members are encouraged to engage in open dialogues about their experiences, emphasizing the need for confidentiality and emotional safety.
Readers are urged to share these experiences and seek connections that foster understanding and support. For further insights, submit questions to R. Eric Thomas at [email protected] or P.O. Box 22474, Philadelphia, PA 19110. Follow him on Instagram and sign up for his weekly newsletter at rericthomas.com.
