The holiday season has ignited a spirited discussion on social media, particularly TikTok, regarding the ethics of charitable giving. A recent incident involving a woman and her husband shopping for gifts on an angel tree has garnered significant attention, raising questions about how best to support children in need during this time of year.
The controversy centers around a video posted by TikTok user @itscookiedoughh. In the footage, the couple is seen shopping at a Target store for a young girl’s Christmas list provided through an angel tree program. The couple initially appears well-intentioned, aiming to fulfill the child’s wishes. However, their approach has been criticized as lacking genuine consideration for the child’s desires.
Initially, the angel tree organization recommended a budget of at least $30 for gifts. Rather than adhering to this guideline, the creator opted to use it as a strict budget. As the video progresses, when faced with specific toy requests, such as a Baby Alive Snuggle Sophia, the couple chose not to purchase them, instead selecting more generic dolls and clothing from Target’s own brand.
The backlash was swift and severe. Commenters expressed their disappointment in the couple’s choices, leading the creator to delete the original video. In a follow-up video, she defended her actions, stating, “They would be grateful for anything… if they’re not, that’s on them and their upbringing.” This remark further fueled criticism, with many arguing that for children experiencing poverty, Christmas represents a unique opportunity to receive gifts that reflect their individual wishes.
In contrast, another TikTok user named Serena has gained attention for her generous spirit this holiday season. In one of her most popular videos, she discovers a child’s wish list on an angel tree that includes a heartfelt request for a calico kitten following the loss of his dog. After confirming with the child’s parents that a live cat would be appropriate, she visited an animal shelter to adopt a kitten. Additionally, she purchased essential supplies including food, litter, toys, and a $200 gift card to Petco for future needs.
Serena’s videos showcase a joyful and thoughtful approach to giving. She focuses on fulfilling the children’s specific wishes rather than merely their basic needs. Commenters praised her actions, highlighting the difference in intent and execution between her and the controversial couple. As one commenter noted, “You’re literally building a story a grown adult is going to tell for the rest of his life.”
The debate surrounding these two contrasting approaches has sparked reflections on the broader implications of holiday giving. Many argue that if individuals cannot afford to purchase the items on a child’s wish list, they should consider leaving those opportunities for someone who can. The sentiment is clear: making a child’s wish come true can create a lasting memory that transcends the holiday season.
As the conversation continues, it is evident that the spirit of giving is not merely about fulfilling a list but also about understanding and responding to the emotional needs of children during the holidays.
