As families gather during the holiday season, many may notice changes in the health and well-being of aging parents. In a recent discussion on the Broadcast Retirement Network, host Jeffrey Snyder welcomed Kim and Mike Barnes from the group Parenting Aging Parents to address the warning signs caregivers should observe. Their conversation highlighted key indicators of decline that can often go unnoticed in everyday interactions.
During the holiday gatherings, families may have the opportunity to observe behaviors that raise concern about their aging relatives. Kim Barnes pointed out that while phone conversations can provide valuable insights, in-person visits often reveal critical changes. She emphasized the importance of paying attention to various aspects of a loved one’s condition, including their physical appearance, eating habits, and mobility.
One common sign of concern is significant weight loss that is not intentional. Observing changes in how a parent moves around the home can also be telling. For instance, if an elderly person struggles to navigate their living space or requires support from furniture, it may signal underlying health issues. Mike Barnes shared a personal example regarding his father, who recently turned 87. He noted that if his father were to suddenly opt for the elevator instead of taking the stairs, it would be a significant red flag regarding his mobility and overall health.
The conversation also touched on cognitive changes that may not be immediately apparent. When interacting with parents over the phone, it is easy to overlook signs of memory loss. Kim Barnes recounted an experience with her mother, who claimed to be reading frequently, despite not having picked up a book in years. This discrepancy became clear only during an in-person visit, highlighting how important it is to observe behavioral changes closely.
Recognizing changes in daily habits can offer vital clues. For instance, a decline in household cleanliness or personal grooming can indicate an emotional or cognitive struggle. Kim Barnes noted that noticing dust accumulating in the home or a parent dressing less carefully than usual could signal a shift in their mental state.
Being physically distant from aging parents can sometimes provide a clearer perspective. Mike Barnes acknowledged that living in different cities can make it easier to notice changes when visiting after a period of absence. He mentioned that significant changes, such as noticeable weight fluctuations or alterations in behavior, can stand out more during infrequent visits.
However, distinguishing between normal aging and concerning changes can be challenging. Jeffrey Snyder raised the issue of how frequent exposure can sometimes lead to overlooking gradual changes. Kim Barnes noted that while daily interactions may mask subtle shifts, a visit after an extended time can reveal significant alterations in behavior or physical health.
As the discussion progressed, Mike Barnes shared a cautionary tale regarding his father’s recovery following a hospitalization for COVID-19. The dramatic change in his father’s mobility post-recovery served as a reminder that health can fluctuate significantly, emphasizing the need for vigilance.
Recognizing the balance between denial and awareness is crucial. Both Kim and Mike Barnes spoke about their experiences dealing with their mother’s Alzheimer’s diagnosis, illustrating how denial can delay necessary interventions. This denial is not uncommon; many families struggle to accept that their loved ones may require additional support or care as they age.
The conversation concluded with an acknowledgment of the importance of honesty within families. Mike Barnes highlighted the need for open discussions about observed changes, emphasizing teamwork among family members.
Moving forward, the Barnes will return to the Broadcast Retirement Network to address how caregivers can respond effectively when they notice signs of decline in their parents. This follow-up discussion aims to equip families with strategies for navigating these sensitive conversations and planning for appropriate care.
For those interested in joining a supportive community, the Parenting Aging Parents Facebook group, which has grown to over 23,000 members, provides resources and shared experiences for caregivers. Access is free, and individuals can join through their website or directly on Facebook.
As families continue to navigate the complexities of caregiving, awareness and proactive communication remain essential in ensuring the well-being of aging parents.
